How is life as a mama of 2?
A question I get asked quite frequently.
If you would have asked me days after Gabriel was born I would have told you I have no idea what I’m doing, no idea how I’m going to manage being outnumbered, and my main focus everyday is to just survive and keep the kids alive! Hey, just being honest here lol
Fast forward to 7 weeks with 2 children…do I feel like a professional who has this mastered? HECK NO. However, that being said, I feel like we might finally be getting into some type of routine…ish.
Everyday is new and different and brings on new challenges. Life with 2 kids (or more) is hard. Period. Anyone who says it’s a walk in the park is lying lol. Sure, there are days where I feel like I’ve rocked this mom life, but then that’s usually followed up by a day where I feel like I’m drowning and it takes all I have just to keep my head above water.
What would I say is my biggest challenge thus far? I’d have to say it is the toddler vs. nursing scenario.
Grayson is generally a pretty well behaved kid. Since having Gabriel, I’ve noticed a slight change in his behaviour. We all know that with any newborn you nurse pretty much 24/7. When said nursing sessions happen, my 2 year old toddler likes to push the limits BIG TIME, and keep me on my toes.
For example, I’ll be sitting on the couch nursing Gabriel and Grayson decides that is a good time to give himself a bath in the dogs water dish, or he suddenly thinks he’s some type of mountain climber and will scale the back of the couch for practice. He basically just uses these nursing times to do anything I’ve ever told him he wasn’t allowed to do.
Is he acting out just for fun? No.
I know he’s doing it because he wants my attention, and also because he’s just plain bored. This doesn’t make it any less annoying or stressful though!
This has been a struggle for us. I want to give him all the attention in the world but at the end of the day there is one of me, and two of them. Unfortunately, my attention has to be divided and when the baby is hungry, well…baby has to eat.
I’ve tried to entertain him the best I can. I’ve tried other people’s suggestions to buy him special toys/snacks that he only gets when I nurse, and while that occupies him half the time, he still ends up watching lots of YouTube videos the rest of the day. Again, this is an adjustment for all of us, and until we’re in a routine that seems to work, I’m fine with him watching non-stop episodes of Blippi on YouTube (does anyone else’s child watch this silly show? lol)
Life with two is no stroll in the park, but every single day I get to kiss both my boys is the best day. I feel blessed to have two healthy children that I am able to hug and kiss everyday.
Being a mom is hands down my greatest accomplishment. And being able to stay home with them each and every day is a blessing that I don’t take for granted.
If you’re having one of those days where you’ve drank 2 pots of coffee, watched Cars (or Moana for the girl moms out there) on repeat all day and cried more than you’d like to admit, just know you’re not alone.
I’m not ashamed to admit that tears have been shed on multiple occasions, and I’m also not afraid to ask for help when I need it.
Do what you can to get you and your precious babies through the day and know that tomorrow is a brand new day.
And in case no one has told you today, YOU ARE AN AMAZING MOM!
I’d love to hear your tips/suggestions on surviving with 2 (or more) children, and what you’ve found works for you. Leave me a comment below 🙂